Good and Bad in Everything

So far in every event that holds some weight on my life, no matter how little, there is one sure thing that I have found in common. There is good and bad involved in everything. Yes some things have much more bad than good or the other way around, but there is bad and good in it all. Sometimes it is extremely difficult or almost impossible to find; so close to impossible in fact that you may not care enough to find it.
The most recent, large example that i have is of the whole situation of my mom having cancer. She has fought through and will survive which is obviously good, but that doesn't count as the good in this because that only occurs because of the bad: having her life threatened by a scary, deadly disease. So you say, if that doesn't count then there isn't good is there? This is where my theory falls apart right? Wrong. This has changed my life, and in a good way. I have come to appreciate the fact that my mom could be at Thanksgiving dinner, that she was there opening presents with us a short time ago, and that everyday she is there like she is now. This is a damn good positive i would say. That through all this terrible shit I have come to learn how important the people who are close to you are. I will never again have a lack of appreciation for my mom and hopefully not for others either.
To find good in a situation like that is enough to prove to me that there is good in everything, no matter how bad it may seem. I could give you a ton of examples of finding the hard to find good or bad but I doubt you wanna sit here all day reading this. And there are two reasons I didn't give an example of trying to find the bad in stuff. One is that sometimes looking for bad just isn't smart. Just stay happy, why find the bad? I just do it because I can't help it sometimes which leads me to my second reason. It's is much easier to find the bad in stuff than it is the good; it is just human nature to find the bad and dwell on that (which leads to the topic which will be in my next blog). If you still don't believe there is good and bad in everything then I want you to really sit down and think about your experiences and find both. I guarantee you that you will find them and when you do you'll know I am right. There is good and bad in everything.

Happiness for a time period...not a moment

People always say that life can never be perfect, that you can never be totally happy. This does seem to be true, but one of the biggest reasons is something you probably wouldn't expect. Most of the time a person isn't completely happy because things are wrong. Maybe there is a fight going on or a loved one has passed away. But what about when that doesn't exist? What about when everything is okay, why are we still not happy?
The answer to that is because you don't know. You don't realize that everything is okay. This is because the brain makes things up, creates problems that may not truly exist. It starts to read into things that don't mean anything. Your brain and heart become worried about nonexistent problems. For example someone stops texting you without giving you a reason. It doesn't mean that they don't care about you or love you or whatever, they still feel the same and everything is okay. Yet you think somethings wrong. Your stomach churns that nervous shitty feeling that things are not good. It makes you upset and even when your friends help you to feel better it does not go away. All you need to do is stop and think rationally. Realize there is nothing wrong and believe yourself that its true that life's good. Realize it's a made up feeling and you will experience happiness for longer than the usual natural high. This is hard to do though because life was made to be imperfect. I've known this idea of made up suffering for a while and yet i still find it a tall task to get by, but someday i will and that will give me periods of time of true happiness, however long or short that time is it is worth it. No life still won't be perfection, but having true happiness for a time is definitely a great thing to achieve.